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Jun 27Liked by Thalia Toha

This is so insightful. I am slowly letting go of one sided relationships. For both of our sakes.

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Reading this at a time when I’m going through something very similar - thank you for sharing.

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Your insights are so true about friends. We become vulnerable and often pour in a friendship bank account in love and respect, sharing their ups and downs, building with encouragement and kind motives. Alas, the time sometimes comes when we need to withdraw from the friend account, but they cannot give back. This leaves us pulled down and drowning in the jaws of a person killing carnivore; I love your metaphors.

Still, there is something intangible about friendship that I don't understand, but I know that it's worth it to try to keep them alive.

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Jack, You’re absolutely right. And perhaps the pursuit of understanding the entirety of a friendship is what makes it worthwhile. Hope you’re well this week, Jack? 🙏

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I’m fighting the good fight and trying my best to understand the mysteries. I hope you are well. 🙏

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Let’s keep fighting.

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Jun 27Liked by Thalia Toha

I think about Tilikum and Tokitae and Corky and Morgan and all the other captive killer whales constantly. I can only imagine how they view their one sided friendships. You should come to the Pacific Northwest and see orcas in the wild sometime.

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This sounds like my kind of sight. When is the best time of the year to see them in the PNW, Joe?

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Many years ago I saw them twice in the summer months.

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Jun 27Liked by Thalia Toha

All true and beautifully brought together! Thank you Thalia.

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Glad you liked it, Jane. Good to have you here.

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That is powerful.

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Thank you, Theresa.

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Huh.

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Jun 26·edited Jun 26Liked by Thalia Toha

Oh my goodness, Thalia! This is magnificent. I truly mean it. xx

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Thank you, Thaissa. Glad you liked it. How are things in Brazil these days for you? 🙏

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So true, so true and as I grow older some apparent friendships of many years just dwindle and die for reasons such as you describe, just when one cannot afford to lose friends but also need to if they are not nourishing.

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